The Voices of Fear: How to Tell the Difference Between Fear and Intuition

When It Comes to Your Soul Mission, the
Most Dangerous Voice Is the One that Sounds Like Reason

Last night, the big, yummy man finished reading Discovering Your Passionate Purpose (CAN/USA). Which is awesome. And it’s also been a bit nerve-wracking.

His good opinion matters more to me than just about anyone’s and while he is absolutely my biggest cheerleader, he also tends to be my biggest turtle. He’ll let me know if he doesn’t like something or if it somehow feels that I’ve missed the mark with an idea or something I’ve created.

So, it was a huge relief that:
1) he’s finished,
2) he said it is ‘very good’, 🤣🤣🤣 and
3) that when he climbed into bed he shared where he could feel his voices of fear and intuition.

‘Woah! Cool! You actually did the exercise?’, says I.

‘Yup. It was quick’, says he. 🤦‍♀️🤣🤦‍♀️

And it got me thinking that in a book as big and in-depth as DYPP, a lot of people might not make it to Chapter 17. Which would be awful, because Chapter 17 has one of the most powerful little life hacks I’ve ever shared:

How to tell the difference between the voices that support you and the voices that tear you down.

You’d think it would be easy, right? To tell the difference. But it’s often very difficult, indeed.

Why?

The Very Convincing Voices of Fear

Because the voices of fear and judgement sound so dang reasonable. They make sense.

They’re logical. They whisper truth.

Or at least that’s what we believe because those are the voices that we’ve been trained to rely on to stay safe. And staying safe is a non-negotiable for our Unconscious Mind.

So those voices of fear, self-doubt… and the nagging criticisms of the Inner Critic… they seem like the ones we should listen to.

But, if we do, our Unconscious Mind will wrap us in ever-tightening layers of *shoulds* and expectations and the right way and wrong way to show up in the world and do everything that we’re supposed to do and on and on…

When we listen to those voices of fear, the voices that have a low vibration and wrap us in misery, we predictably end up with a miserable life.

It sucks.

And yet we all do it.

We’re so afraid of doing it wrong. Of being humiliated. Or being called out. Or failing.

GGGGGAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHH!!!! NOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!

Honestly, it just fries my fritters! Makes me want to jump up on my trusty soap box and shout until I’m heard: there’s a better way!

There’s a Better Way Than Trying to Avoid the Voices of Fear

Unfortunately, shouting doesn’t do it. I can go on and on until I’m blue in the face and it won’t do any good…

… until you DECIDE that your pride isn’t as important as your joy.

Yup. That’s what it comes down to. You can either have joy or you can have your pride.

You Can Have Joy, Or You Can Have Pride

But you can’t have both. Because your pride insists that you be perfect.

That you never get caught out. That you never do anything wrong. And that no one ever sees the *real* you because, of course, the REAL you is wrong. Not perfect. Vulnerable. Tender. Human.

And we live in a world where it’s not safe to be human.

And we live in bodies that have been taught that human isn’t good enough. That being fallible is equivalent to being a failure.

The result is that we’re not safe space for our souls.

We wander through life, constantly worrying about what others will think and what they’ll say and, ohmigosh what will happen if they really find out.

And every second of it, every heartbeat of living in enemy territory where we’re constantly on high alert, burns us out and steals our joy.

It’s exhausting. And it’s harm.

Most important, it’s all a lie. It’s a lie that has been whispered and yelled and stomped at us since before we were born.

And I, for one, am tired of living in enemy territory.

I’m tired of not being safe space for my soul.

And I’m tired of having this pernicious b.s. lie steal my joy.

Choosing To Be Safe Space for My Soul

That’s why I have been steadily, slowly, unwrapping the tendrils that bind me to the voices of fear and, instead, attaching myself to the voices of intuition that vibrate higher, lift me up, align me with the Divine, and fill my life with joy.

It’s a process. It doesn’t happen instantly. But, if we keep seeking the higher vibration voices inside of us, it will happen. And the beautiful thing of it, is that they’re there.

They’re in me. And in you. They’re right here. Whispering. Loving. Wrapping us in warmth and giving us a safe space to dream and become.

Listening to the Voices of Intuition and Love

We’ve been taught that we live in a tough world and that we’ve got to be hard to survive. That it’s got to be hard and that we’re never going to be good enough. We’ve been poisoned by the belief that distress is our closest ally.

But…

But the beauty of being human is that we can change. We can grow and evolve. We can choose something different and then make that different thing our new reality.

Your life doesn’t have to suck.

You can choose joy.

And I’m thrilled that there’s a quick little exercise tucked away in Chapter 17 of DYPP that will start to show you how. So… if you have the book and you’ve been slugging your way through it, you have my permission to pop over to Chapter 17 and give it a go. It’s okay, it won’t break anything.

Locating the Voices of Fear

If you’ve been trying to figure out why your fear keeps sounding like wisdom, Chapter 17 of Discovering Your Passionate Purpose might save you years of second-guessing.

Now, I don’t have space here to give you ALL of Chapter 17, and I wouldn’t want to ruin the surprise for you… but… here’s a little taste from page 210:

“1. Think about something that has caused you minor fear.

2. Bring it up gently in your mind.

3. Breathe into it. Take a deep breath in and out and allow your body to feel the feelings as they move through you.

4. Now, drop your awareness down into your body and allow it to guide you to the place where you feel that fear. It’s often somewhere in the torso.

5. Place your hand on that spot and breathe.

Good job. That’s where your fear lives.”

Change Can Be This Good

Simple. Fast. And yet, knowing where your voices of fear live can make it so much easier to not listen to them when they’re being unhelpful and trying to keep you small and away from Soul Mission.

You’ve got big things to do and a world to change, you don’t have time to let fear stop you over and over and over again.

Discovering Your Passionate Purpose is a great way to connect to your voices of intuition and love, find your Soul Mission, and start changing your life.

And, hey, that thing you’re feeling called to build? The one that’s nudging at your soul? I’m here for it.

You don’t have to do it alone. If your life feels like constant negotiation with fear, or you just can’t see the path to your dreams, that is exactly the work I do. We untangle the old programming, rebuild trust with your intuition, and create a life that actually feels like yours.

Even a few months of 1-1 coaching can make a huge difference. We’ll dig in and drill down to what you really want and then figure out how to get you there. You can apply for a Clarity Session here – let’s get you unhooked from the Voices of Fear and plugged into your intuition.