Want to Transform Your Inner Critic? Write a Compassion Letter

The meanest woman in your life is probably the one in your head. Let’s change that with a Compassion Letter…

Today, I want you to write yourself a very special kind of letter.

From you. To you.

More specifically I want you to write a letter of compassion from your Future Self who is through the hard time you’re facing to the you that you are now.

I want you to speak to yourself with love. With care. With kindness and compassion.

I want you to write this letter to yourself as if you thought you were a pretty darn cool person who really wants to be living the life of her dreams, desires, and Destiny… and is going through a rough patch.

And I know that most of us won’t do it.

We’ll say we’re too busy or that it doesn’t work for us. We’ll say we’ll do it later but later will never come.

Ultimately, we won’t face the discomfort of sitting down with ourselves to get really real with what’s going on. And to take the time to speak love and care and friendship to our sweet current Self.

How do I know most of us won’t do it?

Because I work with women every day. I listen. I watch.
And I feel the daggers that we hurl at our hearts and self-esteem.

We speak cruelty to ourselves. The worst mean girl that ever lived, when it comes to ourselves. We say things we would never dream of saying to another, and we say them frequently.

You’re fat.

You’re stupid.

Who do you think you are.

ugh. Gross.

You’ll never get that.

Our Inner Critic is not the voice we should be listening to

We sit in judgement and pronounce it over our Self 24/7 and then wonder why it feels so fucking hard to put one foot in front of the other to get out of bed, do our TASKs, and create the life we want.

I know we do it. I do it, too. Not the way I used to, and I’m faster to catch myself in the abuse, but here we are… amazing women, trashing ourselves because our Parts think that that’s how they can keep us safe. Small. Invisible.

This is what I teach in Receptive and VisionWeaver.

It’s the Patriarchy-OS™ programming we process and release in Radiance Coaching.

It is THE work.

And you can start it today, if you dare.

Here’s how…

Get your pen and paper ready. Or open a new doc on your computer.

Write today’s date plus 3 years on it, up at the top. March 4, 2029.

Take a breath and bring yourself to as much Centre as you can find.

Take another and drop your awareness down into your body, as far as feels safe.

Then, imagine yourself as the Future You, out there past the current difficulties you’re facing, and really breathe into it. The fear. The doubt. Gone. You figured it out and you won.

Feel that feeling of being safe and happy and winning.

And now, get your pen and paper and write,

“Dear —-,”

And then let it pour out. The gratitude and compassion and encouragement your successful Future Self has for you, to thank you for all you’ve done.

Maybe she’ll share with you specifics about what you did and what projects you were working on and how it looked and maybe it’ll be more generalized celebration for how you overcame the obstacles… there’s no one right way to do this.

Give it a go.

See how long you can stay in compassion and kindness toward yourself.

If you’re feeling especially brave, send me a snippet of what you wrote.
I’d love to cheer you on.

Most women spend their whole lives trying to outrun the voice that tells them they’re not enough. Our work together brings that voice into the room so that we can see what it’s protecting, and then build a life where it no longer needs to scream.

That conversation starts in a Clarity Call.

Ready to get honest about what’s happening in your life and what wants to change? Apply here for a complimentary Clarity Call and we’ll discuss the awarenesses your received in your Compassion Letter… and so much more.

Let’s meet the real you.

PS: Imagine Future You watching this moment.

She’s relaxed. Thriving. Probably drinking something delicious and laughing about how stressed you used to be.

And she’s shouting across time at you:

“BABE. KEEP GOING! IT WORKS OUT.”

Fill out the application here for a complimentary Clarity Call, where we’ll get clear on your next steps, together. 😘